Tuesday, July 24, 2007
What To Do When It Hurts
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Monday, July 23, 2007
Song of the Week: Freedom to Feel
Freedom to Feel, by John Reuben
http://www.myspace.com/johnreuben
"Step away
Keep your distance
I can't be what you want me to be.
But right now there are things inside I don't want you to see
So take your personal spotlight
Shine it on someone else for a while
I can't force a happy face or makeshift you a smile.
I can't deny what I see, what I feel or what's in front of me
So take your world of precious moments of make-believe
They never made me believe in anything
But left me with nothing to hold on to.
Your quick fix and magic tricks can only disguise what I was going through
And now I'm thinkin' it was when it wasn't
And now I'm tryin' to rationalize what just doesn't
Come together and somehow doesn't make sense
But God, how can I convince them when I'm not even convinced?
Everyone is thinkin' it, but nobody's sayin' it
Everyone's sayin' it, but nobody's feeling it
Everyone's feeling it, but nobody's seein' it
So how am I supposed to know what's real?
False sense of happiness
My security wrapped up in this
These control freaks seek out who they can brainwash and make activists.
They'd rather have me lie than bring my failure to the light
Keep your secrets to yourself
It's not about you but them lookin' right.
No time to be ugly
Don't trouble them with your doubt and fears
Shout for joy little boys and girls
You brokenness ain't welcome here.
Well excuse me while I bleed through and my life becomes see-through
Don't ask for transparency but reject what you seein' too.
Everyone is thinkin' it, but nobody's sayin' it
Everyone is sayin' it, but nobody's feelin' it
Everyone is feelin' it, but nobody is seein' it
So tell me, how am I supposed to know what's real?
Everyone is thinkin' it
Everyone is feelin' it
But nobody is seeing it
And how
Am I supposed to feel?
How am I supposed to know what's real?
So please
Can somebody tell me how am I supposed to know what's real
When I was told and controlled how to feel?
You tell me now, how am I supposed to know what's real
When I was told and controlled how to feel?
Jesus, please tell me
How are they gonna know you're real
When we're told and controlled how to feel?
Jesus, tell me please
How are they gonna know you're real
When they're controlled and told how to feel?
You tell me
How am I supposed to know what's real
When I was told and controlled how to feel?
You tell me please, God
How are they gonna know that you're real
When they're told and controlled how to feel?
You tell me please
How am I supposed to know what's real?
How are they supposed to know what's real?
How are you and I supposed to know?
Freedom to feel
How am I supposed to feel?
How am I supposed to know what's real?"
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selah
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Thursday, July 19, 2007
Mental Health Tip of the Week: What am I willing to give up?
Are you willing to let go of the following in order to meet your need for self-esteem?
- Wanting or demanding that others approve of you
- Wanting to be perfect
- Having to win
- Minimizing the importance of your feelings and opinions
- Disliking yourself
- Wanting to be right
- A lack of interest in any other person's point of view
- Ignoring the facts in forming your opinions
- Making hasty judgments about the behavior of others
- Believing others are out to get you
- Fearing others
- Fearing the opinions of others
- Continually disregarding your rights in favor of the rights of others (occasionally this is necessary on everyone's part, the issue is when it is continually)
- Believing your personal value is determined by the opinions of others
- Destructive communication skills
- An aversion to being alone
- An aversion to examining personal thoughts and feelings
- A reluctance to accept ownership of personal choices
- A hesitancy to determine needs
- Rushing to anger
- Unforgiveness-the inability to let things go
- Promising things that you cannot be sure of delivering
- Attempting to control the personal choices of others
- Accepting responsibility for the personal choices of others
- Fighting facts and hating change.
This excellent learning material is adapted from the book entitled "Understanding Anger" by B. Ileen Seeley, M.A.
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Wednesday, July 11, 2007
Song of the Week: HERO
By: Superchick
http://www.myspace.com/superchick
No one sits with him, he doesn't fit in,
But we feel like we do when we make fun of him,
'Cause you want to belong, do you go along?
'Cause his pain is the price paid for you to belong
It’s not like you hate him or want him to die,
But maybe he goes home and thinks suicide,
Or he comes back to school with a gun at his side,
Any kindness from you might have saved his life...
TAG: Heroes are made when you make a choice...
CHORUS:
You could be a hero,
Heroes do what's right,
You could be a hero,
You might save a life,
You could be a hero, you could join the fight,
For what’s right, for what’s right, for what’s right...
No one talks to her, she feels so alone,
She's in too much pain to survive on her own,
The hurt she can't handle overflows to a knife,
She writes on her arm, wants to give up her life,
Each day she goes on is a day that she's brave,
Fighting the lie that giving up is the way,
Each moment of courage her own life she see's,
When she throws the pills out a hero is made...
TAG/CHORUS
No one talks to him about how he lives,
He thinks that the choices he makes are just his,
Doesn't know he's a leader with the way he behaves,
And others will follow the choices he's made,
He lives on the edge, he's old enough to decide,
His brother who wants to be him is just nine,
He can do what he wants because it's his right,
The choices he makes change a nine-year-old's life...
TAG/CHORUS
You could be a hero - (Our time is now) heroes do what's right
You could be a hero - (Our time is now) you might save a life
You could be a hero - (Our time is now) you could join the fight
For what's right.
The above lyrics are the property of the respective authors, artists and labels, the lyrics are provided for educational purposes only. If you like the song, please buy relative CD to support the artist.
selah
music therapy
Saturday, July 7, 2007
Mental Health Tip of the Week: Empowerment
There are basically two types of power an individual can have: power _over_ and _personal_ power. To have power over is to control others through manipulation, bribes, and threats. This may be an effective source of power but it has its limits. Trying to have power over is exhausting work because it requires constant vigilance and planning.
By notable contrast, personal power is the ability to take charge of yourself! It is the authority of your thoughts to determine how you feel about what you do. It is the mechanism that enables you to take care of your own needs, and defend against threats to your sense of self.
Personal power does not rely on other people and things for satisfaction or safety. It is free from environmental control. Personal power is inner strength! Self knowledge and self control are necessary components of personal power. You need to be aware of your needs, your rights, and your responsibilities as well as the limits of your control. Personal power is an inside job built on knowing that personal choices (thoughts, feelings, and behaviors) are totally under your control!
Personal power raises self-esteem and enhances emotional security by increasing levels of trust (trust in self and trust in others). Gaining control over your thoughts, feelings and behaviors provides confidence in your ability to take care of your own needs. Personal power is "guaranteed power" because it is based solely upon your relationship with yourself. The only thing it depends on is your own integrity.
People who demonstrate personal power:
- Are aware of and accept responsibility for their personal choices.
- Are aware of and accept limits on what they can control.
- Reject responsibility for the choices of others.
- Are willing to change unprofitable personal choices.
- Understand that a change in thoughts creates a change in feelings and behaviors (thoughts are a source for change!)
- Are capable of behaving assertively (while not stepping on others)
- Do not feel the need to defend or justify who they are or what they do.
This excellent learning material is adapted from the book entitled "Understanding Anger" by B. Ileen Seeley, M.A.
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Friday, July 6, 2007
Song of the Week: Blessing in Disguise
In the deep of the dark you fell in as the heart
of your world went down in flames.
to a cauldron of pain. Seeing no way out.
And as you walked through the fire, losing even desire,
it was like a dying swan to look at you then. But look at you now.
You have found a new lease on life.
A stronger step and a curious calm on your face, that you wear as if to say...
You can rise from the ashes again.
You can rise to the morning that breaks in your eyes.
For what looked like your heart's demise,
has turned out to be a blessing in disguise.
It has worked for the good, like you heard that it could.
But it was hard, so hard to believe
standing among the ruins of a dream.
But from here looking back, you can see clearly that
you can gain from things that you lose, and learn many ways by many means.
You have been an inspiration to me.
And all the volumes of hope your revival can speak will always say to me...
You can rise from the ashes again.
You can rise to the morning that breaks in your eyes.
For what looked like your heart's demise,
has turned out to be a blessing in disguise.
...It's turned out to be a blessing in disguise.
Album: Along the Road
Artist: Ashton, Becker, Dente
The above lyrics are the property of the respective authors, artists and labels, the lyrics are provided for educational purposes only. If you like the song, please buy relative CD to support the artist.
selah
music therapy